Most people want to be loved. Well, at least all those I have ever met. Like me, they enjoyed receiving the extra adoration, special privileges, attention, forgiveness and light that being loved brings. However, it is interesting to note how many of the same people do not want to give love. They are unwilling to put in the work to heal, humble oneself and prepare for love.
I fell into this category. Maybe you can relate. You are just too tired and disappointed from past hurt to try. Bitterness begins to construct an impermeable wall to block the free flow of love in and out of your heart. But at some point, you have to ask yourself if you want love in your life again (from another person other than your child or family). Be honest. Ask yourself, “Do I desire to experience reciprocal true love…tender, patient, powerful, kind, forgiving and faithful?” If you do, one of the first steps is to turn to God and humble yourself.
Don’t do anything for selfish purposes,
but with humility think of others as better than yourselves.
Instead of each person watching out for their own good,
watch out for what is better for others.
– Philippians 2:3-4 (Common English Bible)
Believe me; humility takes a lot of work! It requires letting go of pain and trusting God with all aspects of your new relationship. You have to endure the healing process. It requires you to be vulnerable and relinquish control. It also involves a new set of eyes…seeing others and yourself from a new perspective. And to be clear, humility of oneself does not mean settling for just anyone. You should expect the best! Thankfully, God’s word can help you with this transformation and provide the strength you will need. Although there may be some tears, loving again is worth the effort!
…And everyone, clothe yourselves with humility toward each other.
God stands against the proud, but he gives favor to the humble.
– 1 Peter 5: 5 (Common English Bible)