Power To Lead

Power To LeadAre you a leader in your community, business, church, home, or workplace?  Are you looking for a more effective leadership style? Leadership is often associated with power.  It requires taking action that others willingly follow.  In the best case scenario, there is a forward action with positive results for all.

Exceptional leaders exhibit a power to influence behavior and change the course of events without dominance or limitations.  They are often studied for their remarkable style or method to accomplish the extraordinary.  Let’s take a look at a few characteristics of a quintessential leader – one still known for His impact on this world…

Jesus.

  1. Humility
    He served others instead of being served. Graciously, he showed compassion towards everyone.  His words liberated instead of suffocated. He never put people down to lift himself up.  Although he had great power and wisdom, he always acknowledged his source and reminded others that it was not solely him whom they were experiencing.

Jesus responded, “My teaching isn’t mine but comes from the one
who sent me.” – John 7:16 (Common English Bible)

 

  1. Boldness
    He broke a lot of man-made rules and displayed courage in the face of wickedness. He valued truth over legalistic traditions and customs. He was a protector and defender of those less fortunate.  Many people opposed him because he did not always choose a lawful or permissible option.

When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them,
“Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”
– John 8:7 (New International Version)

 

  1. Empowering
    He did not have the desire to rule over people. Instead, he taught others to love and serve mankind.  His teachings were empowering, not oppressive or controlling. He did not withhold anything good from his followers.  He was a trusted friend and mentor.

I assure you that whoever believes in me will do the works that I do.
They will do even greater works than these because I am going to the Father.
– John 14:12 (Common English Bible
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  1. Authentic
    He led by example instead of barking orders. Whether speaking to an outcast or a dignitary, a prostitute or high-ranking official – all who encountered Him met the same person.  He built relationships. He did not compromise his moral values or integrity to fulfill the mission. He was faithful, loyal and respectful to all people.

I have come as a light into the world so that everyone who believes in me
won’t live in darkness. If people hear my words and don’t keep them,
I don’t judge them. I didn’t come to judge the world but to save it.
– John 12:46-47 (Common English Bible
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There are many leadership styles to model after, but the leadership style of Jesus has powerful results.

 

Abuse of Power

Abuse of Power

Have you ever been bullied by a person who claims to be a Christian?

They are initially perceived as kind, but over time and often behind closed doors, a monster emerges.  Either you had or currently have a close relationship with this person through work, family or personal connection.  They distort God’s Word to impose a reckless power and ultimately, try to control you.  After being in their presence, you feel completely drained and disconnected from the awesome love of Christ.

Maybe you can relate to one of these situations:

Your mistakes and flaws are constantly pointed out. Since they have spent a considerable amount of time with you, they know you more intimately than others.  They act as if they are an appointed representative sent by God to judge you…scrutinize you…admonish you…over and over again.  Their vitriol never lets up.  However, no provision is made on their behalf to actually help you grow.  They consistently put you down to lift themselves up.  Their jealousy, bitterness and hypocrisy manifests over time and your “bad” behavior is always to blame.  They desire to keep you under their false power through condemnation, pressure and shame.

This is not the wisdom that comes down from above.
Instead, it is from the earth, natural and demonic.
Wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition,
there is disorder and everything that is evil.
– James 3:14-16 (Common English Bible)

You are isolated from those who truly love and care for you, especially your Heavenly Father.  Their mission is to gain power over your emotions and cause you to feel utterly alone.  They demand to be your only source of validation. This is done through gaslighting, exploitation and an assortment of words to destroy your self-confidence and self-worth.  Their counsel sounds like “enlightenment”, nonetheless, they impose a legalistic standard on you that can never be fulfilled and to which they themselves do not adhere.  They are inconsiderate of your dreams and use your talents for their selfish gain. You begin to question your purpose and feel hopeless.  You avoid fellowship with those you once considered family.  You desperately search for yourself while entangled in their web of manipulation, lies and deception to no avail.

Regardless of the abuse tactic, there is good news:

You can upgrade your life today.  You will never need anyone’s permission to improve your own wellbeing.  Just because they may disapprove or speak something negative over you, it does not mean you have to receive or believe it.  You are no longer subject to the abusive power or harassment of fake Christians.  No longer allow them direct access to your ears for any extended period of time. If you must interact with them on a regular basis, guard your heart from their wicked words.  Replace their words with the promises found in Scriptures.  There is power for the brokenhearted.  Find refuge in the Word and discover the power of God within you!

Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions,
and over all the power of the enemy:
and nothing shall by any means hurt you. – Luke 10:19

Peace, health and happiness belong to you.  You are a beloved child of God!  He desires the very best for you.  Renew your personal relationship and spend time with Him through prayer.  Give yourself a daily dose of grace and power to fuel your life-changing, transformation process.  Remember, God will supply a way out of any situation that you will be able to endure.  This process will strengthen you, fill you with compassion and prepare you for good success.  It is never too late to start a new journey with your Heavenly Father!

But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle,
and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits,
without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace
of them that make peace.  – James 3:17-18

Unshakable Power – Part 3

roots-of-powerFeeling overwhelmed and anxious are emotions many of us battle to subdue.  Sometimes, they can be fueled by something extremely new or different to our normal routine.  The good news is that you can grow and flow with opportunities while remaining unshakeable at your core.  Four years ago, I posted about the challenge of what to do with yourself and emotions while God is at work.  Please allow me to share again how you can enjoy peace and remain calm while He is in control of the situation…

How can you become unshakable in the midst of all this?

Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD,
and whose hope the LORD is.
For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters,
and that spreadeth out her roots by the river,
and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green;
and shall not be careful in the year of drought,
neither shall cease from yielding fruit. – Jeremiah 17:7-8

Get ROOTED.

Go DEEP in your relationship with GOD – deeper than you have ever been.  Ask Him to show you new dimensions of His love and the essence of His power. Only with God will you become steady during turbulent times.  The winds of change continue to blow and the heat of the unexpected burns, but nothing shall harm you.  He loves, protects and empowers you to be a blessing in any situation.  This requires a complete trust and focus on God instead of your circumstance.

SPREAD your roots among the “living water” of God’s Word.  Find at least one or two scriptures in the bible that you believe to be true.  If you’d like an example, here are two scriptures that you can begin to plant and grow roots in your spirit.

Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them
that put their trust in him. – Proverbs 30:5

And they shall fight against thee; but they shall not prevail against thee;
for I am with thee, saith the Lord, to deliver thee. – Jeremiah 1:19

Every day, speak the scriptures aloud and think on the words and their meaning until it abounds in you. You will know it is rooted when it comes into your mind or out of your mouth freely, without prompting. Once you have deeply rooted those scriptures in your spirit, search for others and repeat the process.  Firmly establish yourself in the truth of God – not mankind. Understand, it is the storms of life that reveal how deep and wide your roots have grown.

When we are spiritually rooted and grounded, we become impervious to the chaos in the world. Our emotions are steady.  We can love, forgive, prosper and go forward in the midst of any storm!

Get rooted in God’s Word and become UNSHAKABLE!

Loving Again

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Most people want to be loved.  Well, at least all those I have ever met.  Like me, they enjoyed receiving the extra adoration, special privileges, attention, forgiveness and light that being loved brings.  However, it is interesting to note how many of the same people do not want to give love.  They are unwilling to put in the work to heal, humble oneself and prepare for love.

I fell into this category.  Maybe you can relate. You are just too tired and disappointed from past hurt to try.  Bitterness begins to construct an impermeable wall to block the free flow of love in and out of your heart.  But at some point, you have to ask yourself if you want love in your life again (from another person other than your child or family).  Be honest.  Ask yourself, “Do I desire to experience reciprocal true love…tender, patient, powerful, kind, forgiving and faithful?” If you do, one of the first steps is to turn to God and humble yourself.

Don’t do anything for selfish purposes,
but with humility think of others as better than yourselves.
Instead of each person watching out for their own good,
watch out for what is better for others.
– Philippians 2:3-4 (Common English Bible)

Believe me; humility takes a lot of work!  It requires letting go of pain and trusting God with all aspects of your new relationship.  You have to endure the healing process. It requires you to be vulnerable and relinquish control. It also involves a new set of eyes…seeing others and yourself from a new perspective.  And to be clear, humility of oneself does not mean settling for just anyone.  You should expect the best! Thankfully, God’s word can help you with this transformation and provide the strength you will need.  Although there may be some tears, loving again is worth the effort!

…And everyone, clothe yourselves with humility toward each other.
God stands against the proud, but he gives favor to the humble.
– 1 Peter 5: 5 (Common English Bible)

Meet Your Power Coach

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Searching for the perfect life coach or business mentor for 2018?  Ready to turn big dreams into reality?
Well, look no further.  Allow me to introduce your new power coach

…your Heavenly Father! 
You can experience the sweet success and undeniable results that come only from a proven leader.  He is a Creator, a Provider and a Finisher.  He is the ultimate game changer for your life!

The steps of a [good and righteous] man
are directed and established by the Lord,
And He delights in his way [and blesses his path].
– Psalm 37:23 (Amplified Bible)

Equip yourself with a power coach that can help you navigate through the well-meaning recommendations of friends, family and internet advisors.  He can steer you away from dead-end paths void of fulfillment as well as, paths that cannot accommodate all your inner talents and secret desires.  He can equip you with boldness over fear and confidence over uncertainty.   Anything is possible with Him!  He can open doors and create new partnerships that no one else can.  And unlike other coaches, He can provide refuge and restoration from unexpected catastrophes that derail even the best-laid plans.  Above all, God is not a procrastinator, money-waster or promise-breaker.

Delight thyself also in the Lord:
and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
– Psalm 37:4

Your Heavenly Father knows all about you, so experience more of Him in 2018.  Trust and allow Him to call the shots in every area of your life.  The best part is when God is directing you; He empowers you with wisdom, favor and supernatural abilities!  He will guide, inspire, and bless you beyond measure!

This year, get to know your power coach and elevate your life to a new level of delight!

Power Women

Power Women

Photo Credit: Deddeh Howard

What makes a woman powerful?  Does her power manifest only in immediate results or long term accomplishments?  Some may answer that it is her ability to make things happen.  Others may contend that it is her selflessness to help others.  Media outlets often recognize powerful women as fierce, tough, strong, smart and wealthy.  As I began to delve into this topic, I reflected on women who I admire and perceive as powerful… women like Harriet Tubman, Queen Esther and my grandmother just to name a few.  To my surprise, there were mutual characteristics that I would use to describe each of them.  Please allow me to share my definition with you.

A powerful woman is…

Luminous
She shines in the midst of a dark situation, although not always visible to the naked eye. Her brilliance glows through a deeper wisdom and understanding to positively influence her world.  Her faith is strong.  She can blaze a trail without scorching or casting a shadow on others.

Strength and honor are her clothing; she is confident about the future. Her mouth is full of wisdom;  kindly teaching is on her tongue. – Proverbs 31:25-26 Common English Bible

Respectful of Men
She understands the value of both man and woman.  Her self-confidence allows her to work with, lead, follow, help, communicate, care for, be loved by and receive from the opposite sex for a cause greater than herself.  Gender does not hinder her collaborations.

But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the part with less honor
so that there won’t be division in the body
and so the parts might have mutual concern for each other.
 
If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it;
if one part gets the glory, all the parts celebrate with it.
You are the body of Christ and parts of each other.
 1 Corinthians 12:24-27 Common English Bible

Focused
She concentrates on her purpose, more than reacting to others.  Pretense, deceit, slander and strife are not her modus operandi.  Her behavior remains consistent through the storms of life and against evil opposition. She gives her attention to the future and goes forward without trepidation.

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear,
but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of sound judgment
and personal discipline [abilities that result in a calm,
well-balanced mind and self-control].
 – 2 Timothy 1:7 Amplified Bible

Wow, it is amazing to think of the power God gave to us all!  I’d love to hear your description or examples of “power women” in the comments!

3D Art Panel TV Wall DIY

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Ready for a DIY using 3D BoardArt Panels?  Here are the steps my husband and I took to build a TV wall and change the look of our family entertainment center.  Our goal was to give it a more theater feel and make use of the high wall space due to vaulted ceilings.  Like most DIY projects, our makeover had to be budget friendly!   This was also the first time we ever built something from wood for our home!  There were a few mistakes along the way, but we learned from them and are ready to share this project with you!   If you prefer a visual, check out this YouTube video: 3D ART PANEL TV WALL DIY.   You will be amazed at what your imagination can create!

DIY Skill Level:  MEDIUM – this is a 2 person project

All materials were purchased from our local home improvement store and Amazon.  For your convenience, links are provided to the products that were purchased online.  Here is our list of project purchases and approximate costs:

  • 3D BoardArt Panels (2 boxes of 12 panels each) – $30 – $60 per box depending on style   http://amzn.to/2vJG3Tr
  • Luminoodle TV and Monitor Bias Lighting for a 50” TV – $25
    http://amzn.to/2x5TOM0
  • 2”x 3.5” 8ft wood posts (4) – $12
  • 4’x 4’ underlayment panels (4) – $36
  • Spray primer (2 cans) – $18
  • Premium primer ( 1 gal) – $25
  • Loctite power grab glue – $4
  • Metallic spray paint (5 cans) -$20
  • Black spray paint (1 can) – $4
  • Wood marker – $6
  • Velcro – $3

Here are tools we already had:

  • L-shaped framing square
  • Hand saw
  • Power drill and wood screws
  • Face mask
  • Wood cleaning supplies
  • caulk gun


Step One: Transform Old Console

The idea was not to spend money to purchase a new television console unit, but to use funds to makeover our existing one.  The latter allowed us to do much more with less.  First, we removed the side towers from our old entertainment system.  This required us to remove all the components and outdated stash of VHS movies and tape cassettes that were hidden deep in the wooden fortress. (Yay! This project caused us to declutter!)  The new configuration included the installation of a swivel TV mount and sound bar.  Note: Be sure to check the TV owner’s manual and select the recommended mount manufacturer. Not all “universal” mounts fit all TVs – this is a lesson we learned.

Old TV Console

Our newly re-created TV console measured about 9.5 feet across.  Due to the high ceiling, we wanted our backdrop to be at least 6 feet high and cover the length of the new console.  We had an idea to make two separate backdrops that join in the center.  Each side of the backdrop would slide in and out for easy accessibility to connections in the back of the TV.  That was the extent of our customized dimensions.


Step Two: Build Backdrop

Now it was time to visit our local home improvement store and check out the wood section.  We saw 2”x 3.5” wood posts that were 8ft tall.  Perfect! There was also a 4’x4’ underlayment that we could foresee attaching to the posts.  Using scrap paper, we drew a version of our backdrop frame based on the dimensions of the pre-cut wood findings.  We decided our backdrop would use two (2) 8ft posts that would stand approximately four feet apart with two (2) 4’x 4’ underlayment pieces for each side of the backdrop.  In total, four posts plus four underlayment pieces.  Before leaving, we picked up some glue and paint.

Construction time!  Since the backdrop needed to lay flush against the wall, we cut out a notch at the bottom of the posts to clear for the baseboards.  The underlayment was then screwed onto the wood posts.

build the backdrop


Step Three: Add 3D Art Panels

After comparing textured wallpaper options, we decided on 3D BoardArt panels to feature on the backdrop.  A few reasons for this choice were its sound proofing characteristics, texture, and the ability to paint and personalize the look.  Plus, we wanted to try something we never worked with before.  There are definitely pros and cons to that decision. Lol!

3D art panel arrangment

While sticking the panels to the underlayment, we realized we were using way too much glue.  Excess seeped out from around the panel edges when pressed down.  We learned that construction glue must be wiped off immediately and that paint does not cover its sticky residue.  If we had been more careful, we probably could have skipped priming a second time before painting.  Panels now had to be carefully scraped to remove dried residue without damaging the surface.  In the end, we had to prime twice.


Step Four: Cut Out Opening for TV Mount

The 3D BoardArt panels were approximately 20 inches wide and our backdrop was approximately 48 inches wide for each side.  When we glued three panels across the top of one side, the 3rd panel had an overhang of about 12 inches.  The overhang was perfect to allow for the top panels to join and still have an opening space for the TV mount in the middle.  One side of the backdrop became 60 inches across so the total width would be 10ft once both sides were joined together!  Height wise, we tiled the panels on the underlayment down to approximately 1.5 feet from the bottom.  Two reasons: TV console was slightly taller than two feet to cover the bare underlayment and (more importantly) we did not have enough panels to cover the entire underlayment to reach the floor.

One side of the backdrop was brought in to measure the panel that would fit around the TV mount.  We used a L-shaped framing square to cut out a customized opening.  Now the focus was to duplicate the backdrop for the other side.  However, notches, overhanging panels and openings needed to be reversed.  No problem.  The second (left) side backdrop was much easier to construct due to our right side experiences.  


Step Five: Prime and Paint

The first round of priming was done with a spray primer.  Unfortunately, the light coat did not cover all the residue left in the seams on the right side of the backdrop.  When we tried to use the metallic silver paint on a small section, the silver paint would not adhere to any spots of remaining residue.  We decided to use a thicker primer and apply it with a paint roller.  Thankfully, this solved the problem.  When we built the second side of the backdrop, we reduced the glue and did not use any caulk between the 3D BoardArt panels.  The second (left) side only required one coat of the thicker primer before spraying with metallic silver paint.

prime and paint step

Step Six: Secure Panels

Both sides of the backdrop were joined together once they were painted and dried.  Velcro was used to connect the overhanging panels.  This allowed the panels to hang flush with each side.   The Velcro allowed for easy disconnection of the two sides of the backdrop.  This was beneficial for accessing TV cords.  In the future, we may decide to relocate the entertainment center.  Both sides of the TV wall backdrop can conveniently move with it.

SPECIAL NOTE:  Hubby decided to add LED lighting to enhance our new entertainment center.  He used a Luminoodle product that was easy, quick and affordable.  Check out this video if you are interested to see how to add colorful ambient lighting to your TV:  Easy LED Light DIY Install for $25


Step Seven: Finish Touch-ups

Next, we touched up scratches and scuffs on the renovated console with a wood marker.  Wood cleaning and polishing products were used to bring out its natural shine.  Lastly, we painted the knobs to change up the look.

Final pic of console with tv wall

Overall, we were pleased at how our first 3D BoardArt panel backdrop DIY turned out.  This TV wall project sparked our imagination as to what other uses these panels could be used for.  Please share if you have some ideas!

final backdrop

If this DIY was helpful, please share this blog post and YouTube video with your friends!  I would love to hear your comments and I am always grateful for your “likes” and support!