Abuse of Power

Abuse of Power

Have you ever been bullied by a person who claims to be a Christian?

They are initially perceived as kind, but over time and often behind closed doors, a monster emerges.  Either you had or currently have a close relationship with this person through work, family or personal connection.  They distort God’s Word to impose a reckless power and ultimately, try to control you.  After being in their presence, you feel completely drained and disconnected from the awesome love of Christ.

Maybe you can relate to one of these situations:

Your mistakes and flaws are constantly pointed out. Since they have spent a considerable amount of time with you, they know you more intimately than others.  They act as if they are an appointed representative sent by God to judge you…scrutinize you…admonish you…over and over again.  Their vitriol never lets up.  However, no provision is made on their behalf to actually help you grow.  They consistently put you down to lift themselves up.  Their jealousy, bitterness and hypocrisy manifests over time and your “bad” behavior is always to blame.  They desire to keep you under their false power through condemnation, pressure and shame.

This is not the wisdom that comes down from above.
Instead, it is from the earth, natural and demonic.
Wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition,
there is disorder and everything that is evil.
– James 3:14-16 (Common English Bible)

You are isolated from those who truly love and care for you, especially your Heavenly Father.  Their mission is to gain power over your emotions and cause you to feel utterly alone.  They demand to be your only source of validation. This is done through gaslighting, exploitation and an assortment of words to destroy your self-confidence and self-worth.  Their counsel sounds like “enlightenment”, nonetheless, they impose a legalistic standard on you that can never be fulfilled and to which they themselves do not adhere.  They are inconsiderate of your dreams and use your talents for their selfish gain. You begin to question your purpose and feel hopeless.  You avoid fellowship with those you once considered family.  You desperately search for yourself while entangled in their web of manipulation, lies and deception to no avail.

Regardless of the abuse tactic, there is good news:

You can upgrade your life today.  You will never need anyone’s permission to improve your own wellbeing.  Just because they may disapprove or speak something negative over you, it does not mean you have to receive or believe it.  You are no longer subject to the abusive power or harassment of fake Christians.  No longer allow them direct access to your ears for any extended period of time. If you must interact with them on a regular basis, guard your heart from their wicked words.  Replace their words with the promises found in Scriptures.  There is power for the brokenhearted.  Find refuge in the Word and discover the power of God within you!

Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions,
and over all the power of the enemy:
and nothing shall by any means hurt you. – Luke 10:19

Peace, health and happiness belong to you.  You are a beloved child of God!  He desires the very best for you.  Renew your personal relationship and spend time with Him through prayer.  Give yourself a daily dose of grace and power to fuel your life-changing, transformation process.  Remember, God will supply a way out of any situation that you will be able to endure.  This process will strengthen you, fill you with compassion and prepare you for good success.  It is never too late to start a new journey with your Heavenly Father!

But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle,
and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits,
without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace
of them that make peace.  – James 3:17-18

Loving Again

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Most people want to be loved.  Well, at least all those I have ever met.  Like me, they enjoyed receiving the extra adoration, special privileges, attention, forgiveness and light that being loved brings.  However, it is interesting to note how many of the same people do not want to give love.  They are unwilling to put in the work to heal, humble oneself and prepare for love.

I fell into this category.  Maybe you can relate. You are just too tired and disappointed from past hurt to try.  Bitterness begins to construct an impermeable wall to block the free flow of love in and out of your heart.  But at some point, you have to ask yourself if you want love in your life again (from another person other than your child or family).  Be honest.  Ask yourself, “Do I desire to experience reciprocal true love…tender, patient, powerful, kind, forgiving and faithful?” If you do, one of the first steps is to turn to God and humble yourself.

Don’t do anything for selfish purposes,
but with humility think of others as better than yourselves.
Instead of each person watching out for their own good,
watch out for what is better for others.
– Philippians 2:3-4 (Common English Bible)

Believe me; humility takes a lot of work!  It requires letting go of pain and trusting God with all aspects of your new relationship.  You have to endure the healing process. It requires you to be vulnerable and relinquish control. It also involves a new set of eyes…seeing others and yourself from a new perspective.  And to be clear, humility of oneself does not mean settling for just anyone.  You should expect the best! Thankfully, God’s word can help you with this transformation and provide the strength you will need.  Although there may be some tears, loving again is worth the effort!

…And everyone, clothe yourselves with humility toward each other.
God stands against the proud, but he gives favor to the humble.
– 1 Peter 5: 5 (Common English Bible)

Power Women

Power Women

Photo Credit: Deddeh Howard

What makes a woman powerful?  Does her power manifest only in immediate results or long term accomplishments?  Some may answer that it is her ability to make things happen.  Others may contend that it is her selflessness to help others.  Media outlets often recognize powerful women as fierce, tough, strong, smart and wealthy.  As I began to delve into this topic, I reflected on women who I admire and perceive as powerful… women like Harriet Tubman, Queen Esther and my grandmother just to name a few.  To my surprise, there were mutual characteristics that I would use to describe each of them.  Please allow me to share my definition with you.

A powerful woman is…

Luminous
She shines in the midst of a dark situation, although not always visible to the naked eye. Her brilliance glows through a deeper wisdom and understanding to positively influence her world.  Her faith is strong.  She can blaze a trail without scorching or casting a shadow on others.

Strength and honor are her clothing; she is confident about the future. Her mouth is full of wisdom;  kindly teaching is on her tongue. – Proverbs 31:25-26 Common English Bible

Respectful of Men
She understands the value of both man and woman.  Her self-confidence allows her to work with, lead, follow, help, communicate, care for, be loved by and receive from the opposite sex for a cause greater than herself.  Gender does not hinder her collaborations.

But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the part with less honor
so that there won’t be division in the body
and so the parts might have mutual concern for each other.
 
If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it;
if one part gets the glory, all the parts celebrate with it.
You are the body of Christ and parts of each other.
 1 Corinthians 12:24-27 Common English Bible

Focused
She concentrates on her purpose, more than reacting to others.  Pretense, deceit, slander and strife are not her modus operandi.  Her behavior remains consistent through the storms of life and against evil opposition. She gives her attention to the future and goes forward without trepidation.

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear,
but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of sound judgment
and personal discipline [abilities that result in a calm,
well-balanced mind and self-control].
 – 2 Timothy 1:7 Amplified Bible

Wow, it is amazing to think of the power God gave to us all!  I’d love to hear your description or examples of “power women” in the comments!

Power To Regulate

Power to RegulateWould you like to gain positive control over two vital aspects of life: health and relationships?  Your body performance and interpersonal connections weigh heavily on the proper supervision of a tiny, yet powerful orifice.  If you want these areas to improve, you must regulate what passes through your mouth.

Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.
– Proverbs 21:23

Your mouth, specifically your tongue, will demand its own pleasure if let unbridled.  It is so powerful that it can consume to the detriment of your body.  Poor input management can lead to stress and disease.  For optimal physical health, input regulation is critical.  Your Heavenly Father provides wisdom on what to ingest and supernatural strength for the discipline regulation requires.

However, output governance of your mouth is vital to your spiritual wellness and thriving relationships.  What it transmits has the power to build up and edify or to tear down and destroy. Your mouth can also speak through tweets, posts, comments and other social media platforms.  The more you regulate what your mouth says, the more control you gain over your life.

For those who want to love life and see good days should keep their tongue from evil speaking and their lips from speaking lies.
– 1 Peter 3:10 Common English Bible

Whatever happened to the teaching…If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all?  Even the Word of God advises…

Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters.
Let everyone be quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener],
slow to speak [a speaker of carefully chosen words and],
slow to anger [patient, reflective, forgiving];
– James 1:19 Amplified Bible

Your joy, peace, well-being and power are directly connected to the content in your mouth.  If you are going to open it, do your best to regulate it.

The Power of Possibility

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed with responsibility?  Or stuck in a situation void of tangible possibilities?  There is nothing good about feeling trapped or defeated.  Daily life should be pleasant, not burdensome.  Do you think your success and well-being is confined by your race, gender, education, economic status, circumstance or even social connections?

If so, I want to share some points for you to remember…

  • God is THE Game Changer – team up with Him for a victorious life!

Jesus replied, “What is impossible for humans is possible for God.”
– Luke 18: 27 (Common English Bible)

  • The only one who wants to restrain, detain and cause you pain is the wicked one – take inventory of the source of your thoughts.
  • Sometimes the change will not appear in the circumstance – be ready for a change in you.
  • Trust God and rely on His wisdom.
  • Believe you can do it!

Jesus said unto him, If thou canst believe,
all things are possible to him that believeth. – Mark 9:23

The truth is – nothing can stop you! God wants you to be free! When you spend quality time with Him, supernatural possibilities and truths are revealed.  He is ready for you – right where you are.  Friend, believe that your future is bright regardless of your current circumstance.  Power up with God…your possibilities are endless!

Power to Live Free of Judgment

Power to Live Free of JudgmentHave you ever felt like someone was judging you? Like someone treated you differently because of your circumstances, lifestyle or beliefs?  Or are you the one who has been judging others without knowing the person or the truth surrounding a situation?

Social media makes it easy to criticize and judge others without first requiring a self-check.  Human beings resist being judged, but are usually quick to categorize and treat others based on perceptions and experiences. There are those who believe a person should judge the sin, but not the sinner.  Some people judge a tree by the fruit that it bears while others believe you can’t judge a book by its cover.  Whatever the philosophy, wrong judgment can damage vital relationships and harden hearts. 

And if any man hear my words, and believe not, I judge him not:
for I came not to judge the world, but to save the world. – John 12:47

Judge not, that ye be not judged.
For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged:
and with what measure ye mete,
it shall be measured to you again. – Matthew 7:1-2

Let no man therefore judge you in meat, or in drink, or in respect of an holyday,
or of the new moon, or of the sabbath days: – Colossians 2:16

Scripture reminds us that Jesus did not judge or condemn anyone.  He was sent to save you, me and the entire world!  As Believers, we are advised not to judge others or allow others to judge us based on the way we live our lives.  Personal comments are best kept to ourselves.  Sharing the love of God and being a living testimony of His power and grace is a great alternative.

Living free of judgment makes it easier to nurture friendships, build trust and forgive others.  When we read the Word of God, it evokes strength and guidance to look past the outward appearance of man.  It also gives us encouragement to look past our own situations and press towards the future with joy in our hearts.  The Word helps us to focus on God and be assured that He will take care of everything.

Friend, today is a great day to live boldly for Christ and free of judgment!

Power For The Brokenhearted

Power For The BrokenheartedWhen do I feel whole again?

Maybe you have asked this question while recovering from a broken relationship. Betrayal, divorce, abuse and deception often cause overwhelming feelings of inadequacy, sorrow and anguish.  Whether it is a spouse, friend or family member – damaged personal relationships can be some of the hardest to overcome.

These distressing situations work to steal your joy.  They cause fear to torment you and hinder your love walk from thriving.  The good news is that God does not want you to live this way.  You are not alone and there is help.  Today is the day to be whole again!

How you may ask?

By relinquishing yourself and your emotions to God. He is the only one who can make you whole.  Do not allow your heart to become hardened, but open it up to the promises of God. Your happiness and well-being are of the utmost importance to Him.

And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace
[Who imparts all blessing and favor], Who has called you to His [own] eternal glory in Christ Jesus, will Himself complete and make you what you ought to be, establish and ground you securely, and strengthen, and settle you.
– 1 Peter 5:10 (Amplified Bible Translation)

Take small steps of faith toward a closer relationship with Him by going as deep as you can in His Word. There you will find truth, peace and encouragement for moving forward! Discover for yourself how God has already made provisions for your healing and wholeness.

Here are a few points for you to reflect on:

  • He will make something beautiful out of any dark and dirty situation in your life.  (Isaiah 61:1-3)
  • He will restore your health and heal all your wounds – emotional and physical.  (Jeremiah 30:16-17)
  • Be patient. He will handle the situation in His perfect timing and in His way.
    (2 Thessalonians 1:6-10)
  • He sent His Son, Jesus and the Holy Spirit to guide and comfort you through the tribulations of life. He wants you to live abundantly! (John 10:9-11)
  • You are brand new! Everything in your past is forgotten when you accept Jesus Christ into your life. (2 Corinthians 5:17-19)
  • He will restore to you one hundred times more than you lost to follow Him. (Mark 10:29-31)

Praise God! You are free to forgive and love again. Emotional healing is a process, but you will feel whole sooner than you ever imagined. Wholeness is yours through the love and power of God!